Love and sex are not the same thing but the colonialist loves to manipulate us that its the same thing. Love is a natural instinct, it makes you feel warm and fuzzy,protected and secure, bigger than life and makes you feel welcome in town.
When we are loving and being loved a sense of well-being permeates our entire existence.
Love makes us feel totally accepted, totally fulfilled. Love allows us to experience one another at the deepest level of our identity.
When we experience love in its fullest and purest-form, we want to experience it again and again. In fact this is what we look for in and expect from our sexual quickies!
Sexual activity (kutombana or Kudinya) is a perfectly natural and normal expression of who we as human beings-its a human right. We need not make excuses about our desire to experience ourselves sexually.
Our sexual experiences are opportunities to abandon ourselves, our covering masks. A sexual encounter is a powerful experience in which bodies can share pleasures with or without the benefit of intimacy. Ever wondered why they're so many one-night-stands in the world?? Because sex feels good and we often mistake it for giving and receiving love. We lie to ourselves that we were in love, and that's why we did it.
In love there is a total acceptance of self, and a willingness to give of self without an expectation of receiving anything in return. When you love, you are not afraid to share the truth of who you are, and you accept the truth of others without judgement. Love feels good because it is good, not because of what you do with you fingers and tongues, but because of who you are.
Until today, you might have thought that your sexual experiences and conquest were true expressions of love. Just for today, devote yourself to giving and receiving the intimacy of love, without physical contact.